No Happy Endings: A Memoir

The author of It's Okay to Laugh and host of the popular podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking--interviews that are "a gift to be able to listen [to]" (New York Times)--returns with more hilarious meditations on her messy, wonderful, bittersweet, and unconventional life.

Life has a million different ways to kick you right in the chops. We lose love, lose jobs, lose our sense of self. For Nora McInerny, it was losing her husband, her father, and her unborn second child in one catastrophic year.

But in the wake of loss, we get to assemble something new from whatever is left behind. Some circles call finding happiness after loss "Chapter 2"--the continuation of something else. Today, Nora is remarried and mothers four children aged 16 months to 16 years. While her new circumstances bring her extraordinary joy, they are also tinged with sadness over the loved ones she's lost.

Life has made Nora a reluctant expert in hard conversations. On her wildly popular podcast, she talks about painful experiences we inevitably face, and exposes the absurdity of the question "how are you?" that people often ask when we're coping with the aftermath of emotional catastrophe. She knows intimately that when your life falls apart, there's a mad rush to be okay--to find a silver lining, to get to the happy ending. In this, her second memoir, Nora offers a tragicomic exploration of the tension between finding happiness and holding space for the unhappy experiences that have shaped us.

No Happy Endings is a book for people living life after life has fallen apart. It's a book for people who know that they're moving forward, not moving on. It's a book for people who know life isn't always happy, but it isn't the end: there will be unimaginable joy and incomprehensible tragedy. As Nora reminds us, there will be no happy endings--but there will be new beginnings.

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288 pages

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E Clou
May 10, 2023
6/10 stars
My rating is perhaps more about my expectations than the quality of the book. So let me explain my expectations first. I read It's Okay To Laugh and found it somewhat helpful with coping with the death of my father (and later the death of my mother). I subsequently followed Nora McInerny's personal life (on Instagram and whatnot) and professional life, occasionally dipping into her podcast, Terrible, Thanks for Asking. So I expected this sequel of sort to include some personal memoir progressing her story but also a book helpful to the range of loss she heard so much about on her podcast.

Unfortunately, this was hyper-focused on her personal story, which despite the loss of her own father, seemed to be useful mostly to young widows. I would definitely recommend this book to a young widow (5 stars for that) but for people suffering other kinds of losses, there are better choices.

And then randomly she throws in a chapter on feminism. Look, I love feminism books, especially those written by activists and scholars, but I also love books with theses and organizing principles.

Sorry if you read this, Nora-- I still love you from afar!

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